Nelson, from Santa Cruz, RJ, tries to replicate the disciplined upbringing he had in his son, João Vitor, 14. "If he comes home crying because he got beaten up, I'll beat him up," he says. His wife, Alessandra, considers herself "softer" in raising their son. Son of a military man, Leandro, from Taquara, RJ, believes that a man is "like a lion" and has to be competitive. "If the father sees the son playing with a doll and does nothing, the son will think it's normal," he says. Andrea had a more liberal education and supports the determined parenting style of her husband, but is concerned about not crossing the line.