The "NARC" isn't going to explain that this is not your fault. The more fault you accept: the better they feel. Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Damage.

Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Damage. In fact, these two outcomes may be the most destructive result of emotional trauma over the long-term and is an added reason why if you have children with a narcissistic partner you should try to leave as soon as reasonably possible.—WHFF Broadcast and Media